Don't date a boy who travels.

He’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. His skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed, it’s burnt with tan lines. He has wounds and bites here and there, but for every flaw on his skin, he has a story to tell.

Don’t date a boy who travels. He is hard to please. The usual dinner and movie date will not make for a repeat. His soul craves new experiences and adventures alike. He will be unimpressed with the talk about your new dress and new purse. He would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane, than hear about your possessions.


Don’t date a boy who travels, because he will bug you to book flights. Every time there’s an airline seat sale, even for a night. He won’t party at Republiq, and he will never pay for Avicii, because he knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.

Chances are he can’t hold a steady job, but even if he could, he’d probably be daydreaming about quitting as soon as he could. He doesn’t want to keep working his ass off for someone else’s dream. He has his own dream, and is busy working at it every day. He is a freelancer; he makes money from something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste his time complaining about your monotony.

Don’t date a boy who travels, he might have wasted his college degree, and he will definitely switched careers entirely. He is now a rafting instructor, rock climbing teacher, or whatever it may be. He’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming, but he’s happy he doesn’t work like a robot all day. He goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.

Don’t date a boy who travels, for he has chosen a life of uncertainty. He doesn’t have a plan or even a permanent address for that matter. He goes with the flow and follows his heart. No matter how cliché, he dances to the beat of his own drum. He doesn’t wear a watch, but maybe a ring on his thumb. When the waves are calling his life stops for a few moments, and he will become oblivious to everything else. But he has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t just surfing.

Don’t date a boy who travels, as he tends to speak his mind. He will never try to impress your parents and friends with his worldly mind. He knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues, social responsibility, or even something as mundane as everyday hate.

Don’t date a boy who travels, because he will never need you. He knows how to sew a button and can cook a mean stew. He can clean up like a whistle, and doesn’t need you to polish his boots. But if you try to help him tie his tie, he will be more than happy to be treated so well by you.

Don’t date a boy who travels, he is too independent. He won’t care whether you join him on his travels. He will forget to check in, and when he arrives, he will immediately hit the town for what’s sure to be a busy night. He’s always living in the present, talking to strangers. He will meet many very interesting, like-minded people. He will share his passion and dreams with people from around the world. In the end, he will get bored with the non-traveling people.

So, never date a boy who travels, unless you can keep up with him. If you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep him. Let him go.

Originally published on Love The Search.